Dear friend,
While we’ve been creating a networking strategy for you to develop into a leader in your community and field, I’ve noticed you worrying about whether you have “real” expertise to share with your colleagues at work — or with contacts you’re meeting as you’re developing your professional path.
As your friend, it pains me to know that you have such beautiful gifts, intelligence, and passion, but aren’t aware of (or acknowledging) these talents.
By being living, breathing human beings, we are each acquiring personal observations and specific knowledge of the systems, people, environments and tasks we interact with every day. You may not realize you’re doing this, but you always have been. Based on the experiences that have shaped your life, you pay attention to the world around you in a way that is as unique as your thumbprint. Plus, knowing how ambitious you are, there’s no way you’d be happy working in a job for these past years without having opportunities to grow, learn and accomplish cool things.
Here are some thought starters to help you recognize and explore your unique point of view:
If none of those questions are sparking energy and recognition of your deep-seated wisdom, I have a hunch the issue might be not one of expertise, but one of confidence. (Hear me out here.)
I’m guessing there may be a secret subtext in your voice, one that’s asking: who am I to share my thoughts? A fear that your contributions might be judged or unworthy.
I used to have that fear permanently stamped on my forehead. I experienced environments where I was expected to show up but not express an independent opinion, so I became convinced my thoughts and ideas were actually worthless and shouldn’t be expressed.
But, playing small and trying to be invisible is not why any of us were put on this planet.
And, recognizing and stepping into your power makes work — and life — a hell of a lot more fun.
The only person who needs to authorize you to share your ideas is YOU. Give yourself permission to be an authority on your work. You don’t have to be the world’s best researcher, marketer, or writer to start helping and teaching those around you.
Take the higher-ups in your company (and your industry) as an example. You’re exposed to completely different information and problems than they are every single day. What are the leaders around you needing that you might be able to provide?
When it comes to a fear of contributing, Marianne Williamson says it best:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?…There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do…It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Lisa is a career change coach helping individuals feeling stuck to find work that fits. She helps people clarify who they are, what they want most, and what a great job for them looks like so they can make their transition as easily as possible. Lisa completed coaching training in Jenny Blake’s Pivot Method, Danielle LaPorte’s Fire Starter Sessions, Kate Swoboda's Courageous Living Coaching Certification, and the World Coaches Institute. In addition to that, she apprenticed with the top career coaches in the country so she can do the best possible work with — and for — you. She's helped more than 500 individuals move into more fulfilling, yummy careers and would be honored to get to serve you next!